18 Things We Forget To Thank Our Exes For

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Most people don’t see relationships for what they are because they’re too focused on what they need them to be. We want people to be placeholders – buffers between us and ourselves, promises that will save us from the brutal inevitability of our existence. We don’t have a healthy perception of what it means to connect and share a life with someone – even if just a portion of it – because we aren’t taught.
We don’t learn how to be grateful for what doesn’t work out, or to see everything for what it can teach us, how it can bring us closer to the people we hope to be. We think that the only good love is forever love, because what we want from love is the same thing we want from marriage and religion and an inflated sense of self-purpose: to be saved.
So we begin to…

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When Cutting Off All Ties With Your Ex Isn’t An Option

When you’re thinking that it’s time to move on…

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Andreas WieserAndreas Wieser

If there’s any cardinal rule we hear over and over about breaking up, it is this: Don’t try to stay friends with your ex.

There are a various reasons people use to back up this opinions: Staying friends means you still love them. It means you still want them back. It means you never loved them at all in the first place and your entire relationship was a sham.

All of these conditions are awfully assumptive. Yes, there are times when the strongest thing to do is to discard love – to let someone’s toxicity roll down the drain and wash out of our lives as seamlessly as it came in. But there are other times when love is a little more subjective – and it must be.

Sometimes the person we no longer love romantically is still the person who takes care of our children. Sometimes they’re…

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